By Bobby Yonzon
Yes, the world is an oyster – succulent, throbbing, and breath-halting. Since man began to look at food not just as a source of nourishment but as a deliverer of infinite pleasures, food and sex have been intertwined like lovers’ limbs in furious feasting.
The joy of partaking of food is so intense that you’d be compelled to share a personal titillation with others and, when possible, with somebody special. Thus, an intimate dinner date – from the hors d’oeuvre to the entree to the dessert – serves only as the aperitif to the main course. The restaurant only as the anteroom to the red chamber of love.
“Both eating and making love provide nourishment and satiation — living energy that is transformed” say gourmand Jennifer Iannolo in her essay in the Atlasphere. “It is not surprising that some foods have been described as orgasmic. It is possible to swoon after experiencing a taste so sublime that one could die on the spot and be joyous for having had the good fortune to exist for that singular moment of pleasure”, she adds.
“To die for” is a Pinoy battlecry when they are unable to resist a spread that may include food which dietitians and doctors sternly warn us against. Pleasure is always tempting that man (and even woman) forges the path of least resistance to gain paradise.
Executive chef Rudolf Sodamin, in his book Seduction and Spices, said that “foodstuffs provided the energy to make love; they provided the sense of well-being and a yen to embrace a lover. Sharing in the preparation and partaking of food between men and women together like no other act – a concept so intrinsic that Adam and Eve’s transgression of the flesh was euphemized by their munching of the apple.”
Bite. Lick. Nibble. Suck. And then some. In our armory of dictions, we equate the same words that describe our acts of consumption with that of copulation. Describing what and how we eat or make love are so interchangeable and enthralling. After all, these deeply involve all our senses – touch, smell, sight, and hearing – and conscript practically all parts of our bodies – from the rigid protuberances to the damp and soft recesses.
We go into hyper-drive when we associate the physical and even aural characteristics of food with sensual parts of the body. A woman’s cleavage as that of ripe mangoes. The suckling and slurping of star apple, with its dagta, as sexual. The innocent pop of a champagne bottle and the subsequent gushing of its contents as erotic.
Iannolo said that eating and sex may be the only two acts that evoke all of man’s senses simultaneously. “The very expression ‘mouth feel’, she says, “evokes a whole new category of expression outside the world of wine tasting”.
And then there is the magic of scent. A man’s musk. Or the whetting action of clove and cinnamon. The Filipino male lover has described a woman’s essence smelling of pinipig to durian, from virgin to wild woman. Clearly, there is a wide spectrum of preferences, from the tame to the hot and exotic.
But whatever the choices, there is the urge to further intensify the desire, the engagement. Even if sensuality is in itself strong and heady, man has, for ages, been seeking mind-blowing aphrodisiacs, as relentless as his search has been for the fountain of youth. The promise of strength, impetuousness and wild abandon of galloping hormones powerfully beckons.
Sodamin, who has established a reputation for elevating cruise cuisine into romantic fine dining, says: “For as long as people have sought to enhance sexual pleasure by stirring desire, building stamina, intensifying orgasm, and retaining virility, they have turned to aphrodisiacs in the form of foods, ointments, potions and charms.”
Our Asian neighbors have a menu of purportedly medicinal but exotic foods to help boost their sexual prowess – from cobra to scorpions, from bird saliva to monkey brain. And pity the animal kingdom that are being raided for sex stimulants. Wonder no more why supposedly Chinese fishermen forage our territories for turtles and pangolins, reputedly strong aphrodisiacs.
Filipinos do not go for rhinoceros horns or gekkos. We may have our bat-n-ball or soup #5, rather sticky affairs concocted from cattle, but by and large, our preference for aphrodisiacs is rather tame. Among the list is avocado because it is shaped like a testicle, or tahong because, you may agree or not, it imitates the look of an active fuerta. Uh, okay.
For a race that stupefy the world with its proclivity for meals “six times a day”, we are rather conservative with our sex culinary adventures. But wait, our new-found prosperity and world view, fired up by the Internet, might free us to be more adventurous. Openly that is.
All over the world, history has shown that lovers’ desires seem insatiable that they must scale up their meals into buffet and smorgasbord, in feasts and orgies of food, oftentimes in homage to deities or saints, like Bacchanalia.
Indeed, food and sex are venerated rites in every religion. Virgins being sacrificed at the altar to ask for good harvest seems to be fair trade when supplicating voracious gods to be kinder.
Sodamin asks: “How can two things so primal, so essential for the propagation of the species, also nourish the soul? Sex the act of procreation, became “making love” – the ultimate expression of one’s feelings.”
And when we become slave to the call of the flesh, we sheepishly reason: “Masarap kasi eh”. Burp.
You probably already know that Broccoli, carrots, and oranges are good for you. Yet it’s rarely mentioned that having regular sex is not only fantastically fun, but brilliant for your health! A study at Queens University in Belfast published in the British Medical Journal tracked the sexuality of about 1,000 middle-aged men over the course of a decade. The study compared men of a similar age and health and showed that men who reported the highest frequency of orgasm lived twice as long as though who did not enjoy sex.
Yoga, treadmills, and weightlifting are all great ways to keep in shape. But the fact that sex is so beneficial to our health is rarely discussed. Every muscle in the body can be worked and toned, particularly the pelvis, buttocks, stomach and arms. Sex has been proven to lower blood pressure, improve cholesterol, and increase circulation. The heartbeat rises from 70 to 150 beats per minute. In fact, people who regularly indulge are half as likely to have heart attacks and strokes than those who don’t have sex at all.
Sex is also wonderful for weight loss since 30 minutes will burn 200 calories! In addition sex calms food cravings because it stimulates the production of phenetylamine, a natural amphetamine that regulates the appetite.
Having regular orgasms is one great way to protect against coughs and colds. Sex saturates the blood with an antibody called immunoglobulin A that is known to boost immunity. At the moment of climax, a powerful chemical called DHEA is released, which also balances the immune system, as well as aids in tissue repair, improves cognition, and promotes bone growth.
Having regular sex can also help beat stress. Oxytocin is a hormone released just before orgasm and helps the body to secrete endorphins, or the inner positivity and chill out hormone. It is a useful remedy for insomniacs, and delivers relaxation to people who are overworked and stressed out. Tension affects the digestive system, so one of the side effects of sex is that the body is able to absorb the nutrients from food more easily.
Several studies have shown that semen just might be a natural antidepressant. Woman who had regular unprotected sex were less likely to be depressed than women who did not have sex or used a condom. One explanation might be that the vagina absorbs all sorts of goodies from her lover’s spunk including zinc, calcium, potassium, and protein.
Sexual stimulation has been proven to be an analgesic. According to the famous professor and sexologist Beverly Whipple, when women masturbated to orgasm, their pain tolerance threshold and pain detection threshold increased significantly from 74.6 to 106.7. This most pleasurable of painkillers is helpful for ailments such as headaches, muscle pains, and menstrual cramps.
Sex promotes the production of collagen, which keeps the skin supple and gives it that peachy glow. As women get older, their juices can dry up. Keeping sexually active is the best cure, as well as the most delicious. Furthermore, sex is one of the best ways to stay young in spirit.
(Sheryl Walters / Natural News)
By Isabella San Gabriel
I HAVEN’T had sex for so long and it’s driving me insane!
I’ll tell you why when it is so easy these days to pick up someone or even ‘purchase’ someone for an hour or two of vigorous sex.
I am 33 and I married my husband 10 years ago. This year he just turned 70.
I know for a fact that his age contributes a lot to his sexual performance or the lack of it for the past few months. Occasionally, inspired by my not so subtle insistence, he takes Viagra. When I say occasionally this means two or thrice a year. Of course I want him to take the drug more often but I worry that it could harm his overall health. I just want to have sex with the guy and not drive him to his grave early!
Aside from this, overall my relationship with my husband is amazing. He is the kindest person I know and treats me like the queen I deserve to be.
What should I do? Can you please say something?
First of all, I am not a medical doctor. I don’t even carry any PhD after my name. I suggest that you consult a medical doctor to verify the following:
Impact of Viagra on your husband’s health if taken with other medications. You didn’t mention in your letter whether your husband is indeed taking any additional medications so I can’t even ask my medical doctor friends. Those I have. A lot. I emphasize that the consultation should be done in a doctor’s office and NOT over the Internet.
The amount of time your husband needs to take Viagra before having sex. And also how many mg he needs to take. As you said you only want to have sex with him and not kill him. Viagra overdose can kill.
Second, rumor has it that a woman reaches her sexual peak at around age 35. You’re almost there and probably your hormones are more active than usual. You may also want to check with your Ob-gyne about that. Your hormones I mean and not on whether or not you are nearing your sexual peak age. Knowing this can help you manage your sexual activities.
Third, I have two alternatives for you. One, open marriage. Two, sex toys.
As Open As You Want It
In a study I read recently, the result of which was published by Huffington Post, I believe, about 5% of marriages in the US are classified as open marriages where one or both parties are with other people with the spouse ‘open’ about this.
From your letter, I guess yours is not in this 5%. How about exploring this type of marriage with your husband? Who knows this may even titillate him enough that he doesn’t need to ingest Viagra a time or two.
Personally, I have never explored the idea of an open marriage, but I will do so now with you. I think it is not bad as long as everyone involved knows what they are getting into and open about what they want from this kind of relationship. A marriage is foremost based on trust and that trust extends to knowing that your partner will do everything in his or her power, as long as it is not illegal, to ensure that you are satisfied in all aspects of your relationship.
Toys for Pleasure
Now, if both of you are averse to having an open marriage. I assume that your husband can use all his other extremities well – his hands and by extension his fingers, his tongue. With all those extremities, I bet both of you can enhance both your sexual experience with the aid of some toys.
There are so many out there to choose from for every pleasure imagined and conceived by men and women.